Are you finding parenting difficult ? Then try this, not only does it work, but you’ll get your va va voom back as well

Parents are having a really hard time now, harder than ever before. Parenting these new kids is a full on job and there is NO manual, we're all learning as we go along. So first of all, let me say that I applaud you, parents of the new kids, it's not an easy job.

And secondly, I know you get advice from every quarter - learn this, do that, change the other and THEN all will be well. Before you read this, I want you to give yourself a pat on the back and know that you are doing the best job you can do. Well done.

And thirdly, I want you to know that there is NO such thing as a perfect family. Parents of new kids sometimes look around and see families with children who seem so well behaved and polite and compliant..... well, behind closed doors there is often a different story. Your kids have just chosen to express their authentic selves wherever they are.

And finally..... don't ever look back. You know what you know and you do the best that you can do in the moment.

Keeping the above in mind, I decided to add yet another tip to the pile you've already got. I've been inundated by parents looking for help with their kids and I feel that we've got to pool information about what works to help these high vibration kids feel comfortable on this planet while their parents stay sane (ish).

So here is today's snippet. I'll tell you a story first and then we can look at the details.

The story is that young, first time parents came to see me because their baby wouldn't stop crying. I know a bit about crying babies, I did a disertation on the subject when I was studying homeopathy. So I went through the usual routine, asking questions, looking for problems. Nothing was obvious, they were both very intelligent (iq & eq), educated, healthy, spiritual, loving parents. And yet, the baby was crying and crying.

I sat there looking at the baby and suddenly something clicked. I asked the mom had anything happened to her when she was that age? 'Oh', she said, 'What didn't happen to me, I was in a SCU, lot of pain, in and out of hospital' and, as she talked and cried ...... the baby stopped crying.

So what happened ? The baby was reacting to the pain the mother held deep inside herself from when she herself was a little baby. As soon as the mother connected with that pain and began to release it, her little baby felt better.

Almost all adults hold crystalised pain inside themselves from trauma they experienced as children. Most of us go through life paying little attention to this pain until something happens to trigger it. Identifying and letting go of this pain is often called 'Inner Child Work'.' I've written about this process on the Indigo Essences web site so check it out if you've never heard of it before.

So, it looks like sensitive children will react intensely to their parents inner child pain. But why would they do that, what purpose does it serve? We need to take a step back and look at the job these kids came here to do.

Here's the deal - planet earth and all her inhabitants are ready for an upgrade, scheduled to take place around 2012. The upgrade will shift us into another level of consciousness, much nicer, more loving, less full of fear and struggle. Sounds great and I'm so looking forward to it. The problem is that lots of us haven't finished our lessons in the old level. Solution - send in some kids to lovingly provoke, prod and pester their parents into becoming conscious of what they need to let go off in order to graduate from the old level of consciousness.

Our problem is that we are ONLY just getting what their job is so it's been a bit slow taking off. Now we're all under time constraints, 2012 is meant to be graduation day and we haven't finished our projects. So the kids are intensifying their efforts to get us on track.

So parents, and anyone dealing with kids, if your child is doing something that is really pushing your buttons - making you sad, angry, frustrated, upset etc. and you can't see an obvious cause, look to yourself for a solution. In fact, even if there is an obvious cause (food, environment etc), if their behaviour can push your buttons, that shows you still have buttons to push. The buttons are the unresolved fears and wounds of your little inner child, they are what cause you to react sometimes with the emotional intelligence of a two year old.

Healing the inner child is a vital part of the work we all need to do to move up a level of consciousness. This healing unlocks our frozen and numbed feelings and sensitizes us to the needs of ourselves, our child and every child and this sensitivity will go on to create a world where every being is loved and cherished unconditionally.

And you know something parents - Inner Child healing will also fire you up with a renewed passion for your own life. It will reconnect you with the things you loved as a kid, with the feelings of joy and freedom that you once felt, with the way you were before you took on the responsibility of a family, mortage etc. It is SO worth it.

How to go about it ? If you've had an averagely traumatic life then you can probably do inner child work by yourself. If you've been through a lot as a child it is a good idea to give yourself the gift of working with a professional who can guide you through the process.

I've written a short bit about Inner Child Healing on the Indigo Essences Website and recommended some books that I've found useful.

Essences are really helpful to balance and stabilize you and help you move through things more quickly. The New Child Series and indeed the Combinations for Kids both work very well with the inner child. Browse the sets and choose the ones that shout out to you.

EFT (emotional freedom technique) is another really useful way to move through inner child healing in double quick time, I usually recommend that you do this and use essences as well to speed up the process.